Nostalgic Depression: Symptoms and How to Cope
https://www.inoreader.com/article/3a9c6e743bf37883
https://www.psycom.net/depression/nostalgic-depression
When someone perceives their past as significantly better than their present circumstances, nostalgia can lead them to dwell on what’s been lost. “Nostalgic depression is more likely in times of adversity, such as financial hardship, relationship difficulties, grief, or traumatic stress,” says Batcho. Similarly, if someone feels disconnected from their past—perhaps because of the death of a close loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job, or moving to a new place—that “can trigger nostalgic yearning for one’s previous life along with depression that stems from the realization or belief that what has been lost cannot be regained,” she adds.
Reminds me of Quran/9/51, also at the end of Yaqeen's Why Me Ramadan 2024 series: https://quran.com/en/at-tawbah/51. Still need to develop a reliable system to reduce or eliminate these intrusive thoughts and tendencies.
- (Tuesday's AW Dua 141) O Allah, I place my needs before You. Although my thoughts are deficient and my actions weak and wanting, I am in need of Your mercy. So, O the One Who decides all affairs and O the One Who heals the hearts, just as You keep the oceans apart from each other, so keep me away from the punishment of Hell and from seeking destruction (in the Hereafter, due to agonies of Hell) and (protect me) from the tribulations of the grave.
- (Thursday's AW Dua 185) O Allah, turn the stray thoughts of my heart into Your fear and remembrance. Turn my aspirations and desires toward things of Your liking and pleasure. And when You try me with ease or discomforts, then make me stick to the path of truth and the Shari‘ab of Islam.
- Duas related to death/dying
How to Stop Feeling Nostalgic for an Ex - School of Life
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GScIO3KkpZ4
“After considerable agony, we’ve left a relationship. We’re on our own now – and, when we can bear to be honest, it’s a little harder than we expected. We aren’t going on many dates; the central heating broke down last week; the shopping is proving a hurdle. In idle moments, we find ourselves daydreaming, returning fondly to certain occasions in the concluded relationship. There was that wintry weekend by the sea: they looked adorable walking on the beach in their thick scarf. We fed the seagulls and drank cheap white wine from paper cups on the seafront and felt connected and happy. Then there was a moment on honeymoon, when we discovered the little Vietnamese restaurant hidden away in a side street in Paris and became friends with the owner and her husband. Or we recall how, at a large party, we both realised we didn’t particularly like the other guests – it was a special, conspiratorial moment: the two of us, shoulder to shoulder, talking over just what was wrong with everyone else. We’re newly conscious of the charm of so many things that seemed ordinary at the time – coming out of the supermarket, putting everything away in the fridge and the cupboards; making soup and toasted cheese and watching television on the sofa…”
Workable solutions:
We should trust not what we feel now, in our weepy disconsolate state, but what we must have known then. A simple rule of thumb emerges: we must invariably trust the decisions we took when we had the maximal information to hand upon which we made them – not when we have emotional incentives to change our minds and mold ourselves into a caricature of an easily-gratified creature. There were persuasive reasons, even if – in our sadness – we now can’t remember a single one. Returning to the past wouldn’t make us content,
- Trust your decision, remember you were ruminating on divorce for years and did plenty of istikhara.
- Accept qadr, submit to Allah