- Introduction to Attachment Specialist: Adam Lane Smith introduces himself as an attachment specialist, addressing the common question about what attachment means.
- Definition of Attachment: Attachment is described as the secure connection between two individuals where they believe the connection won't easily break. It involves the belief that others care about one's needs and will act in their best interest without exploitation.
- Development of Attachment: Attachment is learned during early childhood, primarily from parents or caregivers. The child's brain, from birth to around 12 years old, forms expectations about how people will treat them based on early experiences.
- Impact of Broken Attachment: Broken attachment can lead to various issues, including anxiety, perfectionism, and difficulty forming stable relationships. Generational attachment issues may be passed from parents to children.
- Challenges and Solutions: Overcoming attachment issues is challenging due to the fear of rejection and the fight-or-flight response. However, there is hope, and the solution involves unlearning negative beliefs, relearning that one is lovable, and opening up to being loved by others. Adam Lane Smith has outlined a process for addressing attachment issues in his book, "Slaying Your Fear," available on Amazon.
Oct 15, 2021 #AttachmentTheory #Attachment #AttachmentSpecialist Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith reveals the secret workings of human relationships and how you may be destroying your own happiness without realizing it. If you struggle with anxiety, worry that people may be mad at you but pretending it's fine, and if you believe no one will ever really love you, this video may help you understand what's wrong.
This video is part of an ongoing series related to attachment.
Unhealthy attachment means a person struggles to believe in any emotional security, so vulnerability to others becomes dangerous and fearful. In fact, vulnerability is utterly terrifying because it could lead to judgment and abandonment as secret imperfections are revealed. Vulnerability may even lead to outright victimization by those around them. Vulnerability and attachment are linked. A person with broken attachment struggles constantly with worries of abandonment and being forgotten because they don’t believe others really love them for who they are, only for the services they perform. They believe decisions others make will usually conflict with their own needs because the people they love don’t think about them enough to remember their wellbeing, or else they just aren’t important enough to consider. Disagreements and mistakes with poor attachment are often the end of relationships to them because they believe they’ll be abandoned and rejected instantly upon displaying imperfection and will be given no chance to explain or make amends.
In short, a person with unhealthy attachment believes others only love them for the services they perform, that love must be continuously earned, that people will actively fall out of love with them every moment they are not refilling the person’s pleasure meter, and that love can be accidentally destroyed by the slightest mistake.
Understanding Avoidant Personality Disorder. --Salaamedia
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- Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) is characterized by social inhibition, where individuals restrain themselves from interacting with others due to a pervasive fear of criticism and rejection.
- AvPD impacts various aspects of a person's life, including relationships, occupation, family, and social situations.
- Individuals with AvPD experience a strong feeling of inadequacy, perceive themselves as inferior, and fear being ridiculed or rejected by others.
- The disorder manifests in both personal and professional settings, leading to challenges in intimacy, reluctance to ask for help, and potential self-sabotage in career opportunities.
- People with AvPD may avoid seeking help due to anxiety, fear of judgment, or a belief that their issues are not serious. Therapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral and schema therapies, is recommended for addressing AvPD and changing negative thought patterns.
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