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==Islamic Guide to Sexual Relations by Muhammad ibn Adam Al-Kawthari [https://www.muslim-library.com/dl/books/English_Islamic_Guide_To_Sexual_Relations.pdf][https://drive.google.com/file/d/1IOlyUXrZG7uGIr_OFnzog9Vzv_ENDEHN/view?usp=drive_link][https://old.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/comments/14rw10i/preparation_to_become_a_husband_islamic/jqujp9f/]==

[[in|In]] [[answering]] [[questions]] [[from]] [[the]] [[public]] [[over]] [[the]] [[past]] [[five]] [[years]] [[or]] [[so]], [[I]] [[have]] [[come]] [[across]] [[many]] [[individuals]] [[who]] [[desire]] [[to]] [[know]] [[the]] [[Islamic]] [[ruling]] [[on]] [[matters]] [[of]] [[sexual]] [[intimacy]] [[between]] [[spouses]]. [[aid|Aided]] [[by]] [[the]] [[relative]] [[anonymity]] [[of]] [[email]] [[as]] [[a]] [[medium]] [[of]] [[communication]], [[questioners]] [[have]] [[opened]] [[up]] [[and]] [[began]] [[to]] [[pose]] [[frank]] [[questions]] [[courageously]] [[without]] [[being]] [[shy]] [[and]] [[without]] [[the]] [[fear]] [[of]] [[being]] [[humiliated]].

# [[in|In]] [[answering]] [[questions]] [[from]] [[the]] [[public]] [[over]] [[the]] [[past]] [[five]] [[years]] [[or]] [[so]], [[I]] [[have]] [[come]] [[across]] [[many]] [[individuals]] [[who]] [[desire]] [[to]] [[know]] [[the]] [[Islamic]] [[ruling]] [[on]] [[matters]] [[of]] [[sexual]] [[intimacy]] [[between]] [[spouses]]. [[aid|Aided]] [[by]] [[the]] [[relative]] [[anonymity]] [[of]] [[email]] [[as]] [[a]] [[medium]] [[of]] [[communication]], [[questioners]] [[have]] [[opened]] [[up]] [[and]] [[began]] [[to]] [[pose]] [[frank]] [[questions]] [[courageously]] [[without]] [[being]] [[shy]] [[and]] [[without]] [[the]] [[fear]] [[of]] [[being]] [[humiliated]].

# ...[[in]] [[light]] [[of]] [[the]] [[teachings]] [[of]] [[the]] [[Qur'an]], [[sunna|Sunna]], [[reference]] [[works]] [[from]] [[the]] [[four]] [https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Sunni Sunni] [[Schools]] [[of]] [[Islamic]] [[law]], [[and]] [[other]] [[works]] [[of]] [[classical]] [[and]] [[contemporary]] [[scholars]]

...[[in]] [[light]] [[of]] [[the]] [[teachings]] [[of]] [[the]] [[Qur'an]], [[sunna|Sunna]], [[reference]] [[works]] [[from]] [[the]] [[four]] [https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Sunni Sunni] [[Schools]] [[of]] [[Islamic]] [[law]], [[and]] [[other]] [[works]] [[of]] [[classical]] [[and]] [[contemporary]] [[scholars]]

# [[a]] [[woman's]] [[sexual]] [[desire]] [[reaches]] [[its]] [[peak]] [[directly]] [[after]] [[the]] [[completion]] [[of]] [[her]] [[menstrual]] [[cycle]].

# When a female companion was married off and inquired about her husband... [[She]] [[would]] [[say]] [[to]] [[him]], "[[An]] [[excellent]] [[man]]! [[A]] [[man]] [[who]] [[has]] [[not]] [[slept]] [[with]] [[us]] [[in]] [[bed]] [[nor]] [[removed]] [[the]] [[veil]] [[from]] [[us]] [[since]] [[we]] [[came]] [[to]] [[him]]!" (page 16/25 in pdf) ... Somewhat similar to the hadith of Ibrahim AS visiting his son's home and getting a complaining ungrateful wife then her opposite.

#*[[This]] [[hadith]] [[also]] [[presents]] [[a]] [[model]] [[of]] [[chastity]], [[modesty]] [[and]] [[bashfulness]] [[of]] [[the]] [[female]] [[companions]] ([[may]] [[Allah]] [[be]] [[pleased]] [[with]] [[them]] [[all]]), [[and]] [[tells]] [[us]] [[how]] [[patiently]] [[they]] [[bore]] [[the]] [[indifference]] [[of]] [[their]] [[husbands]]. [[In]] [[the]] [[instance]] [[quoted]], [[the]] [[politeness]] [[with]] [[which]] [[the]] [[wife]] [[of]] '[[Abdullah]] [[ibn]] [[Amr]] [[answered]] [[her]] [[father]]-[[in]]-[[law]], [[when]] [[he]] [[enquired]] [[about]] [[the]] [[treatment]] [[of]] [[her]] [[husband]], [[is]] [[an]] [[exceptional]] [[example]] [[of]] [[decency]] [[and]] [[endurance]].

# [[Imam]] [[al-Ghazali]] [[holds]] [[that]] [[it]] [[is]] [[religiously]] [[obligatory]] [[for]] [[a]] [[man]] [[to]] [[have]] [[sex]] [[with]] [[his]] [[wife]] [[once]] [[every]] [[four]] [[nights]].

# [[It]] [[is]] [[recommended]] [[for]] [[men]] [[to]] [[use]] [[perfume]] [[when]] [[attending]] [[public]] [[gatherings]], [[particularly]] [[for]] [[Friday]] [[and]] '[[ld]] [[prayers]], [[as]] [[authentically]] [[established]] [[from]] [[many]] [[Prophetic]] [[narrations]]. [[This]] [[allows]] [[a]] [[Muslim]] [[to]] [[benefit]] [[others]] [[by]] [[his]] [[pleasant]] [[fragrance]], [[and]] [[it]] [[is]] [[in]] [[this]] [[context]] [[that]] [[applying]] [[perfume]] [[is]] [[considered]] [[an]] [[act]] [[of]] [[charity]]...

## [[it]] [[is]] [[not]] [[permitted]] [[for]] [[women]] [[to]] [[go]] [[out]] [[wearing]] [[perfume]], [[as]] [[the]] [[Messenger]] [[of]] [[Allah]] /[[b]] [[firmly]] [[forbade]] [[it]] [[in]] [[rigorously]] [[authenticated]] ([[sahih]]}) [[hadiths]].

## [[it]] [[is]] [[permitted]] [[to]] [[use]] [[mainstream]] [[perfumes]], [[deodorants]] [[and]] [[creams]] [[even]] [[if]] [[they]] [[contain]] [[alcohol]], [[because]] [[the]] [[alcohol]] [[contained]] [[in]] [[them]] [[is]] [[from]] [[other]] [[than]] [[grapes]], [[dates]] [[and]] [[barley]]. [[In]] [[many]] [[products]], [[synthetic]] [[alcohol]] [[formulated]] [[from]] [[chemical]] [[substances]] [[is]] [[used]] [[which]], [[according]] [[to]] [[the]] [[fatwa]] [[position]] [[in]] [[the]] [[Hanafi]] [[School]], [[is]] [[not]] [[impure]] ([[najis]]).

# [[The]] [[hair]] [[which]] [[grows]] [[on]] [[the]] [[cheeks]] [[or]] [[throat]] [[of]] [[a]] [[man]] [[is]] [[not]] [[considered]] [[to]] [[be]] [[part]] [[of]] [[his]] [[beard]], [[for]] [[a]] [[beard]] [[is]] [[that]] [[which]] [[grows]] [[on]] [[the]] [[jawbone]]. [[As]] [[such]], [[it]] [[is]] [[permitted]] [[for]] [[a]] [[man]] [[to]] [[remove]] [[hair]] [[from]] [[the]] [[cheeks]] [[by]] [[shaving]] [[or]] [[trimming]] [[it]]. ([[Radd]] [[al]]-[[Mu]]}[[J]],[[tar]] [[6]]:[[407]] [[and]] Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya [[5]]:[[358]]) ... [[The]] [[husband]] [[should]] [[also]] [[ensure]] [[that]] [[he]] [[shaves]] [[or]] [[at]] [[least]] [[trims]] [[his]] [[moustache]].

# [[treat|Treat]] [[them]] [[fairly]]. [[If]] [[you]] [[happen]] [[to]] [[dislike]] [[them]], [[you]] [[may]] [[hate]] [[something]] [[which]] [[Allah]] [[turns]] [[into]] [[a]] [[great]] [[blessing]]. --[[Quran/4/19]] [https://www.islamawakened.com/quran/4/19/printview.html]

# "From these two prayers [i.e. the supplication before commencing sex and the supplication at the time of ejaculating], it can be deduced that exactly at the time when one is busy gratifying one's carnal desires and engaged in an act even the mention of which is considered a matter of shame, one has been taught to keep one's relationship with Allah Most High foremost in the mind, and not to hesitate supplicating before Him. Thus, what was a sensual act has been turned into an act of worship." (Radiant Prayers P: 65)

##''[[Allahumma]] [[jannibnash]]-[[shaytiin]], [[wa]] [[jannibish]]-[[shaytiina]] [[ma]] [[razaqtana]]''<br>[[O]] [[Allah]]! [[Protect]] [[us]] [[from]] [[Satan]] [[and]] [[protect]] [[what]] [[you]] [[grant]] [[us]] [[from]] [[Satan]].

##Du'a when Ejaculating:<br>''Allahumma la taf alli ash-shaytiini fimii razaqtanii na!jiban''<br>O Allah! Do not grant the Satan a share in what [children] You bless us with

# "O Allah! Bless my family for me, and bless me for my family. O Allah! Unite us with good, and separate us, if you do, with good." (Tabarani in his Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir g:204, and 'Abd al-Razzaq in his Al-Musannaj 6:83)

==Thursday (2023-07-06) Dua 177 [https://archive.org/details/TheAcceptedWhispers/page/126/mode/2up]==

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 ==Islamic Guide to Sexual Relations by Muhammad ibn Adam Al-Kawthari [https://www.muslim-library.com/dl/books/English_Islamic_Guide_To_Sexual_Relations.pdf][https://drive.google.com/file/d/1IOlyUXrZG7uGIr_OFnzog9Vzv_ENDEHN/view?usp=drive_link][https://old.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/comments/14rw10i/preparation_to_become_a_husband_islamic/jqujp9f/]==
-[[in|In]] [[answering]] [[questions]] [[from]] [[the]] [[public]] [[over]] [[the]] [[past]] [[five]] [[years]] [[or]] [[so]], [[I]] [[have]] [[come]] [[across]] [[many]] [[individuals]] [[who]] [[desire]] [[to]] [[know]] [[the]] [[Islamic]] [[ruling]] [[on]] [[matters]] [[of]] [[sexual]] [[intimacy]] [[between]] [[spouses]]. [[aid|Aided]] [[by]] [[the]] [[relative]] [[anonymity]] [[of]] [[email]] [[as]] [[a]] [[medium]] [[of]] [[communication]], [[questioners]] [[have]] [[opened]] [[up]] [[and]] [[began]] [[to]] [[pose]] [[frank]] [[questions]] [[courageously]] [[without]] [[being]] [[shy]] [[and]] [[without]] [[the]] [[fear]] [[of]] [[being]] [[humiliated]].
+# [[in|In]] [[answering]] [[questions]] [[from]] [[the]] [[public]] [[over]] [[the]] [[past]] [[five]] [[years]] [[or]] [[so]], [[I]] [[have]] [[come]] [[across]] [[many]] [[individuals]] [[who]] [[desire]] [[to]] [[know]] [[the]] [[Islamic]] [[ruling]] [[on]] [[matters]] [[of]] [[sexual]] [[intimacy]] [[between]] [[spouses]]. [[aid|Aided]] [[by]] [[the]] [[relative]] [[anonymity]] [[of]] [[email]] [[as]] [[a]] [[medium]] [[of]] [[communication]], [[questioners]] [[have]] [[opened]] [[up]] [[and]] [[began]] [[to]] [[pose]] [[frank]] [[questions]] [[courageously]] [[without]] [[being]] [[shy]] [[and]] [[without]] [[the]] [[fear]] [[of]] [[being]] [[humiliated]].
+# ...[[in]] [[light]] [[of]] [[the]] [[teachings]] [[of]] [[the]] [[Qur'an]], [[sunna|Sunna]], [[reference]] [[works]] [[from]] [[the]] [[four]] [https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Sunni Sunni] [[Schools]] [[of]] [[Islamic]] [[law]], [[and]] [[other]] [[works]] [[of]] [[classical]] [[and]] [[contemporary]] [[scholars]]
-...[[in]] [[light]] [[of]] [[the]] [[teachings]] [[of]] [[the]] [[Qur'an]], [[sunna|Sunna]], [[reference]] [[works]] [[from]] [[the]] [[four]] [https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Sunni Sunni] [[Schools]] [[of]] [[Islamic]] [[law]], [[and]] [[other]] [[works]] [[of]] [[classical]] [[and]] [[contemporary]] [[scholars]]
+# [[a]] [[woman's]] [[sexual]] [[desire]] [[reaches]] [[its]] [[peak]] [[directly]] [[after]] [[the]] [[completion]] [[of]] [[her]] [[menstrual]] [[cycle]].
+# When a female companion was married off and inquired about her husband... [[She]] [[would]] [[say]] [[to]] [[him]], "[[An]] [[excellent]] [[man]]! [[A]] [[man]] [[who]] [[has]] [[not]] [[slept]] [[with]] [[us]] [[in]] [[bed]] [[nor]] [[removed]] [[the]] [[veil]] [[from]] [[us]] [[since]] [[we]] [[came]] [[to]] [[him]]!" (page 16/25 in pdf) ... Somewhat similar to the hadith of Ibrahim AS visiting his son's home and getting a complaining ungrateful wife then her opposite.
+#*[[This]] [[hadith]] [[also]] [[presents]] [[a]] [[model]] [[of]] [[chastity]], [[modesty]] [[and]] [[bashfulness]] [[of]] [[the]] [[female]] [[companions]] ([[may]] [[Allah]] [[be]] [[pleased]] [[with]] [[them]] [[all]]), [[and]] [[tells]] [[us]] [[how]] [[patiently]] [[they]] [[bore]] [[the]] [[indifference]] [[of]] [[their]] [[husbands]]. [[In]] [[the]] [[instance]] [[quoted]], [[the]] [[politeness]] [[with]] [[which]] [[the]] [[wife]] [[of]] '[[Abdullah]] [[ibn]] [[Amr]] [[answered]] [[her]] [[father]]-[[in]]-[[law]], [[when]] [[he]] [[enquired]] [[about]] [[the]] [[treatment]] [[of]] [[her]] [[husband]], [[is]] [[an]] [[exceptional]] [[example]] [[of]] [[decency]] [[and]] [[endurance]].
+# [[Imam]] [[al-Ghazali]] [[holds]] [[that]] [[it]] [[is]] [[religiously]] [[obligatory]] [[for]] [[a]] [[man]] [[to]] [[have]] [[sex]] [[with]] [[his]] [[wife]] [[once]] [[every]] [[four]] [[nights]].
+# [[It]] [[is]] [[recommended]] [[for]] [[men]] [[to]] [[use]] [[perfume]] [[when]] [[attending]] [[public]] [[gatherings]], [[particularly]] [[for]] [[Friday]] [[and]] '[[ld]] [[prayers]], [[as]] [[authentically]] [[established]] [[from]] [[many]] [[Prophetic]] [[narrations]]. [[This]] [[allows]] [[a]] [[Muslim]] [[to]] [[benefit]] [[others]] [[by]] [[his]] [[pleasant]] [[fragrance]], [[and]] [[it]] [[is]] [[in]] [[this]] [[context]] [[that]] [[applying]] [[perfume]] [[is]] [[considered]] [[an]] [[act]] [[of]] [[charity]]...
+## [[it]] [[is]] [[not]] [[permitted]] [[for]] [[women]] [[to]] [[go]] [[out]] [[wearing]] [[perfume]], [[as]] [[the]] [[Messenger]] [[of]] [[Allah]] /[[b]] [[firmly]] [[forbade]] [[it]] [[in]] [[rigorously]] [[authenticated]] ([[sahih]]}) [[hadiths]].
+## [[it]] [[is]] [[permitted]] [[to]] [[use]] [[mainstream]] [[perfumes]], [[deodorants]] [[and]] [[creams]] [[even]] [[if]] [[they]] [[contain]] [[alcohol]], [[because]] [[the]] [[alcohol]] [[contained]] [[in]] [[them]] [[is]] [[from]] [[other]] [[than]] [[grapes]], [[dates]] [[and]] [[barley]]. [[In]] [[many]] [[products]], [[synthetic]] [[alcohol]] [[formulated]] [[from]] [[chemical]] [[substances]] [[is]] [[used]] [[which]], [[according]] [[to]] [[the]] [[fatwa]] [[position]] [[in]] [[the]] [[Hanafi]] [[School]], [[is]] [[not]] [[impure]] ([[najis]]).
+# [[The]] [[hair]] [[which]] [[grows]] [[on]] [[the]] [[cheeks]] [[or]] [[throat]] [[of]] [[a]] [[man]] [[is]] [[not]] [[considered]] [[to]] [[be]] [[part]] [[of]] [[his]] [[beard]], [[for]] [[a]] [[beard]] [[is]] [[that]] [[which]] [[grows]] [[on]] [[the]] [[jawbone]]. [[As]] [[such]], [[it]] [[is]] [[permitted]] [[for]] [[a]] [[man]] [[to]] [[remove]] [[hair]] [[from]] [[the]] [[cheeks]] [[by]] [[shaving]] [[or]] [[trimming]] [[it]]. ([[Radd]] [[al]]-[[Mu]]}[[J]],[[tar]] [[6]]:[[407]] [[and]] Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya [[5]]:[[358]]) ... [[The]] [[husband]] [[should]] [[also]] [[ensure]] [[that]] [[he]] [[shaves]] [[or]] [[at]] [[least]] [[trims]] [[his]] [[moustache]].
+# [[treat|Treat]] [[them]] [[fairly]]. [[If]] [[you]] [[happen]] [[to]] [[dislike]] [[them]], [[you]] [[may]] [[hate]] [[something]] [[which]] [[Allah]] [[turns]] [[into]] [[a]] [[great]] [[blessing]]. --[[Quran/4/19]] [https://www.islamawakened.com/quran/4/19/printview.html]
+# "From these two prayers [i.e. the supplication before commencing sex and the supplication at the time of ejaculating], it can be deduced that exactly at the time when one is busy gratifying one's carnal desires and engaged in an act even the mention of which is considered a matter of shame, one has been taught to keep one's relationship with Allah Most High foremost in the mind, and not to hesitate supplicating before Him. Thus, what was a sensual act has been turned into an act of worship." (Radiant Prayers P: 65)
+##''[[Allahumma]] [[jannibnash]]-[[shaytiin]], [[wa]] [[jannibish]]-[[shaytiina]] [[ma]] [[razaqtana]]''<br>[[O]] [[Allah]]! [[Protect]] [[us]] [[from]] [[Satan]] [[and]] [[protect]] [[what]] [[you]] [[grant]] [[us]] [[from]] [[Satan]].
+##Du'a when Ejaculating:<br>''Allahumma la taf alli ash-shaytiini fimii razaqtanii na!jiban''<br>O Allah! Do not grant the Satan a share in what [children] You bless us with
+# "O Allah! Bless my family for me, and bless me for my family. O Allah! Unite us with good, and separate us, if you do, with good." (Tabarani in his Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir g:204, and 'Abd al-Razzaq in his Al-Musannaj 6:83)
 ==Thursday (2023-07-06) Dua 177 [https://archive.org/details/TheAcceptedWhispers/page/126/mode/2up]==